Stop doing this.

Chanced upon this article on Facebook.

http://www.bspcn.com/2012/02/03/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

Thought it was good to be reminded of the things we gotta stop doing to ourselves. I am guilty of some of the things mentioned :c Will definitely try to improve on them. I guess at the end of the day, optimism really matters alot. I know of this friend who would rant on twitter about how pathetic her life is (Note point 17). She would rant on and on about how her life sucks and really just whining about everything in her life- from her work to her relationships to her family and even to she herself. She's forever unhappy with herself. I think that's very sad and it really gets on my nerves when I see my twitter newsfeed being flooded with her 'emo' tweets. She needs to snap out of it, for her own good really. I know sometimes in life we feel that we suck when we do badly on something that matters to us. For example, I got a notice from the office today that a parent had expressed her displeasure towards me because she thought that I did not care for her daughter for a particular issue. I questioned the daughter and realised it was a misunderstanding but during class, I just stoned there for quite a while and wondered if I am not as caring as the other teachers around. I felt really down because of that :c After class, I realised that even the thought that you might have done something wrong can really demoralise a person. Imagine the impact if you really had done something wrong:/ I guess the most you can do is to face the problem, solve it to the best of your abilities and then dont dwell on it too much already. Oh yes, and we should never doubt ourselves on a whole just because of one incident. Like we should never generalise one area of inadequacy to everything we do.

I think I am guilty of points 7, 12, 13, 15, 16, 18 and 23. That's quite a number :c

7. Stop being scared to make a mistake
Very terrified to make a mistake especially at work now. I don't know but I feel like if I make a mistake, people will start judging me and belittle me. Ugh. need to snap out of this @.@ Nobody's perfect right. hahaha.

12. Stop thinking you're not ready.
2 weeks ago, my mentor asked me to do a sharing session with the class. I hesitated and she told me,' dont worry la! You can do it! They know you so well already!" I keep thinking I am not ready to teach because I am not NIE trained yet:/ The sharing session turned out fine and it boosted my confidence a bit thereafter. Really want to thank my mentor for being so encouraging T.T

13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reason.
I need to start finding my future husband T.T

15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
I will sometimes gauge my own achievements against some of my friends:/ I know it's bad because sometimes, I wont feel genuinely happy for them when they do better than me in certain areas that matter to me and 2. 人比人气死人 because there'll always be someone who's better than you eventually (I think). I think what matters most is that you have tried and put in your very best for everything you do ^^

16. Stop being jealous of others
This I cannot help it. I am already trying very hard not to compare and be jealous:c I think this point somehow overlaps with point 15.

18. Stop holding grudges
hahahah I think this can be translated into pettiness. We can forgive but we will never forget. I think i'm that kind hahaha :/

23. Stop trying to make things perfect.
Overlaps with points 7 and 12 I guess? I want to be very prepared and am afraid to make mistakes because I want everything to be perfect? Who has heard of a perfect lesson. I used to think there was a perfect lesson till I attended the teaching prep course and the lecturer said,'There's no such thing as a perfect lesson. You will never know what will happen next.' I guess that's true but we can always try and make sure the lesson is conducted and the students understand what you are trying to teach. That to me is considered to be a perfect lesson already. Imo, we can try and make things perfect but we got to lower the bars when it comes to different issues:/ Makes attaining perfection easier hahaha.